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Menopausal Weight Gain: How To Get Your Body Back

By Staness Jonekos, Author “The Menopause Makeover”

It is estimated that the average weight gain during the menopause transition is about 10 to 15 pounds.  Well, I must not be average, because I gained almost 30 pounds in less than a year when I slammed into menopause!   Frustrated that I could not find a solution, I sacrificed myself as a human guinea pig and figured out how to lose it all in just 12 weeks.

To be successful, weight loss during menopause demands a new strategy.  It takes more than cutting calories to lose weight during this life transition! I was surprised to discover, according to new research, that for many women menopausal weight gain is not entirely their fault.

The first culprit is aging. Both men and women lose muscle mass as they age, which can lower the body’s resting metabolism, therefore increasing the risk of weight gain and accumulating body fat around the waist.

Many women become less physically active in their 40s, 50s and 60s because life is busy; it’s a challenge to find time to schedule exercise. Less activity means less muscle mass, which means weight gain.

Now get ready for the double whammy:  Aging plus hormone changes.

Studies claim that the perimenopause transition may contribute to increased fat in the abdomen, changing a woman’s shape from a pear to an apple with more of the fat disturbed around the waist. Here’s proof that weight loss is an uphill battle.

As we age and slide into menopause, it is suspected that declining estrogen levels may lower the rate of energy used during exercise.  Weight loss habits and workout routines used in younger years often aren’t as effective as we age.  It takes more work to lose weight. Not achieving your desired results within a certain time frame may increase frustration and decrease motivation.

Declining estrogen levels wreak hormonal havoc that can cause night sweats, and that is a formula for sleepless nights. Sleep deprivation produces increased levels of ghrelin – the hunger hormone – and decreased levels of leptin – the “stop eating” hormone.  This can equal weight gain.

The list continues. Grab a glass of wine and settle in:

  • Loss of estrogen may make insulin less effective at lowering glucose, and more effective at storing fat.
  • Suffering from menopausal symptoms can affect a woman’s emotional health…weight goes up, self-esteem goes down.
  • Normal life and environmental changes, such as children leaving or coming back home, divorce, death, career changes, can be stressful.
  • The stress hormone, cortisol, directly affects fat storage and weight gain in stressed individuals.  Cortisol is associated with increased appetite, cravings for sugar, and weight gain.
  • There’s a link between estrogen and body fat storage.  Post-menopausal women burn less fat than they did in their pre-menopausal years.  Cells not only store more fat but are less willing to part with it.
  • Medical conditions such as insulin resistance (when your body becomes resistant to the insulin it produces) or suffering from an underactive thyroid can pack on the pounds.
  • Medications that can trigger appetite, slow metabolism, increase fluid retention, and cause muscle cramps decreasing desire to exercise are:  antidepressants, antihistamines, beta-blockers, corticosteroids, insulin, statins and tamoxifin.

It is no surprise that most women going through “the change” struggle with weight gain more than with troublesome hot flashes.

Weight management during menopause is important because weight gain increases the risk of many diseases, including cardiovascular disease, type 2 diabetes, high blood pressure, osteoarthritis, and some types of cancer, including breast and colon.

There is good news! Put that glass of Merlot down and walk into your kitchen, because incorporating a new strategy can help you obtain and maintain a healthy weight.

How food can set you free.  Feeding the new you!

  • Eat Protein: Women naturally have less muscle mass and testosterone than men, so lean proteins such as, chicken, turkey, fish, beans, soybeans and tofu, dairy protein/Greek yogurt, low fat cottage cheese, egg whites, are a woman’s best friend during menopause.  Your body expends more energy (calories) to process proteins.
  • Consume healthy fats: olive oil, flaxseeds, salmon, halibut, tuna, avocados, almonds, and walnuts.
  • Manage blood sugar with low to medium glycemic index foods:  beans, apples, oranges, cherries, plain yogurt, sweet potatoes, oatmeal.
  • Fiber is your friend keeping you feeling full longer and regular.
  • Limit alcohol to 2 or less glasses per day:  That totals less than 10 fluid ounces of wine, 24 ounces of beer, or 3 ounces of 80-proof distilled spirits.  More than two drinks per day may increase the risk of cancer and stroke.
  • Don’t smoke.
  • Watch salt intake to reduce fluid retention.
  • Practice portion control.  Using smaller plates can help.
  • Keep a food diary and create a food plan.  There are many great apps for your mobile that may help.
  • Eat every 3-4 hours so you don’t get hungry. Three meals and two snacks per day (three if you wake up early).
  • Exercise at least 30 minutes most days of the week to maintain a healthy weight; increase workout time if your goal is to lose weight.
  • Make breakfast and lunch your largest meals.
  • Nourish healthy emotions: are you happy, are you surrounded by healthy relationships, is your self esteem high?

If you want to enjoy some dessert after dinner, then don’t eat a starchy carbohydrate, such as white rice, with that meal.  For example dinner can be broiled chicken, steamed veggies and a glass of red wine.  Then you can have your cake and eat it, too (small serving).

Weight loss is possible with a few changes.  Negotiating the Glycemic Index is a powerful tool.  Aim for low to medium glycemic foods, toss in some physical activity and have realistic expectations.

Focus on you! Me-NO-pause!

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Menopause Makeover on PBS

We are excited to announce that The Menopause Makeover will be a donation gift during the airing of our FAVORITE documentary HOT FLASH HAVOC on PBS nationwide starting March 2016.

HOT FLASH HAVOC is not only a movie, but the beginning of a movement that will educate and empower women, men, health care professionals, hospitals, schools, clinics and health care systems worldwide by ensuring everyone has the most up-to-date and accurate information about menopause, directly from world-renowned experts in the field.

We are thrilled that so many people will have the opportunity to see the film through PBS, which reaches over 118 million households throughout the United States and Canada. We believe HOT FLASH HAVOC will give women a new perspective on the “Second Act” of their lives. You can help us make this happen!

Click here to see the list of PBS stations in your area.

If you don’t see your local PBS station listed, please call them and ask when you can see it. If you missed seeing it aired, call and ask them to please show it again!

This list is being updated routinely, so check back if you don’t see your local PBS stations.

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What Every Woman Should Know About Age-Related Macular Degeneration (AMD)

For those of us who have experienced many unpleasant menopause symptoms, did you know that dry eye is also one of them?

Eye health becomes increasingly important as we reach our 50s, which is why I’m shedding some light on age-related macular degeneration (AMD), the leading cause of vision loss in people over 55.

February is AMD Awareness Month, and chances are, you know someone who has the disease. Over 2 million Americans suffering from AMD and 7 million are at risk– the number is expected to double by 2020.

To help bring you this important information about AMD, I have joined the #AMDawareness campaign, sponsored by EyePromise.

WHAT IS AGE-RELATED MACULAR DEGENERATION?

The most common form of AMD is “dry” AMD, which 90% of people experience. It’s the deterioration of the retinal pigment epithelial (tissue) cells within the macula. These cells support the light-sensitive photoreceptor cells that are so critical to vision. When we look at something, the photoreceptors, (a.k.a. rods and cones) collect the images and send them to the brain, where vision takes place.

The macula is an area near the center of the eye’s retina. This tiny area is responsible for our central, sharpest vision and determines our ability to read, drive a car, see faces or colors, and view objects in fine detail.

As AMD progresses, our central vision deteriorates and starts to fail. The presence of lipid (a fatty protein) deposits, called drusen, has also been connected with the disease. While drusen likely do not cause age-related macular degeneration (AMD), their existence within the eye increases a person’s risk of developing AMD.

In about 10 percent of patients, dry AMD can become “wet” AMD, where blood vessels form under the retina, leaking blood and fluid into the eye, according to AllAboutVision. Wet AMD further (and more quickly) distorts the central vision, and can ultimately lead to blindness.

SYMPTOMS: Distorted, blurry or spotty vision, inability to see clearly in dim lighting. Imagine if a straight line looks wavy!

RISK FACTORS: Aging is the major cause of AMD, and women are more likely to have the disease than men. Genetics also plays a role, as well as smoking, which can double your risk. AMD is more common in Caucasians than in African Americans and Hispanics, one study shows.

HOW YOU CAN IMPROVE YOUR EYE HEALTH: What Every Woman Should Know About Age-Related Macular Degeneration (AMD)

Add important nutrients called zeaxanthin and lutein into your diet to help support and improve your macular health. While these ingredients can be found in many leafy greens, oily fish and fruits, you most likely are not getting an adequate dose to significantly support and protect your macular health.

“The dietary carotenoids zeaxanthin and lutein protect the most important retinal real estate of the eye–-the macula–which allows us to see detail. It is therefore critical to maintain the quality and health of this area of retinal tissue in a modern society that depends upon using computer screens and driving automobiles, safely,” said Dr. Stuart Richer, OD, PhD

If you think you are at risk for age-related macular degeneration, or might have the disease, schedule an appointment with your eye doctor today.


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Menopause Makeover & Hot Flash Havoc on PBS

The Menopause Makeover is joining Award Winning Documentary Hot Flash Havoc on PBS as part of their 365 station fundraising drive.  Wahooooo!

When you watch Hot Flash Havoc, executive produced by Heidi Houston and directed by Marc Bennett, you will have the opportunity to donate to PBS and receive a DVD of Hot Flash Havoc, plus a DVD series called, MENOPAUSE TALKS (Think Ted Talks with menopause experts), a copy of The Menopause Makeover, AND Change your Menopause by Dr. Wulf Utian.

Hot Flash Havoc is narrated by Oscar Award Winning Actor Goldie Hawn, and The Public Broadcasting System (PBS) has licensed to air it on stations across the country starting March 5th!

Click here to find out when it airs in your neighborhood.

If you do not see the PBS station in your area showing the movie, please contact them to request the movie.

We encourage you to tell both men and women to take the time to tune in, become engaged and encourage this vital conversation about menopause.

Both Heidi and I released our menopause passion projects the same year, and I am thrilled to have my book included with her film on PBS.

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Do Menopause and Alcohol Mix?

Do menopause and alcohol mix?

You’ve probably heard that moderate drinking is good for your heart. But you’ve probably also heard that it’s a danger for breast cancer and that it can trigger hot flashes. Here are the facts that can help you make decisions about drinking.

The most important thing is how much you drink. The benefits come with moderate—big emphasis on moderate—drinking. Starting with the Framingham Heart Study, big epidemiologic studies have shown that while moderate drinking has some benefits, drinking much more than that can be detrimental. More than two drinks per day and the negative effects begin to pile up, with increases in the rates of cancer, stroke, and more.

What’s One Drink?

This is how the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAA) defines one standard drink:

  • 5 fluid ounces (one glass) of wine (about 12% alcohol). Don’t let your wine glass fool you—most hold much more than 5 ounces.
  • 12 fluid ounces (usually one can or bottle) of regular beer (about 5% alcohol)
  • 1.5 fluid ounces (one shot) of 80-proof distilled spirits

This is how the NIAA defines different levels of drinking for women:

  • Light: less than one drink per day
  • Moderate: one to two drinks per day
  • Heavy: more than two drinks per day

How Much Is Good?

  • Light to moderate drinkers have a significantly lower risk of coronary heart disease than nondrinkers. For women, the heart benefits of moderate drinking become apparent at menopause when their heart disease risk normally goes up, and the heart benefits continue after that. Hormone therapy doesn’t affect that benefit.
  • Women who drink moderately have a lower risk of type 2 diabetes.
  • Those who drink moderate amounts of alcohol, especially wine, have a lower risk of dementia than those who don’t drink at all.
  • Women who drink lightly or moderately have a lower risk of stroke than nondrinkers.
  • At and after menopause (ages 50-62), women who drink moderately have stronger bones than nondrinkers.
  • Midlife and older women who drink lightly or moderately have a lower risk of becoming obese than nondrinkers.

How Much Is Bad?

  • Drinking may trigger hot flashes for some women, although that isn’t based in research. So determine whether it’s a personal trigger for you. (As for a general risk of experiencing hot flashes and night sweats, some studies find alcohol increases it, whereas others find the opposite.)
  • Any amount of alcohol increases the risk of breast cancer. The increase in risk is there, but small, for women who drink one drink a day. Women who drink two to five drinks a day have about 1.5 times the risk of nondrinkers. (The increased risk doesn’t seem to have anything to do with alcohol’s effect on estrogen levels.)
  • Drinking alcohol increases the risk of many other cancers. The risk rises with the amount of alcohol consumed. (And the risk rises higher if you smoke as well.)
  • Alcohol has harmful interactions with many medications, even ones you may not think about, such as medicines for arthritis, indigestion or heartburn, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, and more. Check out which ones here.
  • More than moderate drinking increases the risk of cardiovascular disease. Among heavy drinkers, women are more susceptible to alcohol-related heart disease than men.
  • Women who drink heavily are prone to central obesity—the apple shape that is a big risk for cardiovascular disease.
  • Heavy drinking can lead to osteoporosis that cannot be reversed. It’s also a risk for fractures.
  • Binge drinking increases the risk of developing type 2 diabetes.
  • Women at menopause are especially vulnerable to depression, and heavy drinking can just make that worse. Heavy drinking itself can lead to depression, and women who show signs of alcoholism are two to seven times more at risk of developing depression than men.
  • Alcoholic women are more susceptible than men to key organ system damage, including heart muscle damage, nerve damage, cirrhosis, and possibly brain damage as well.

Take It Easy

If you drink alcohol, enjoy yourself, but make sure your drinking is light to moderate. For women, the NIAA puts its low-risk drinking limit at no more than seven drinks a week and no more than three drinks on any single day.

Provided by:  The North American Menopause Society

Can Red Wine Reduce Your Risk for Breast Cancer?

Learn More:

Need to know more about alcohol and your health? Try the NIAA’s Rethinking Drinkingsite.

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Giveaway

Enter to win the next giveaway, coming soon!

Go to the Menopause Makeover Facebook page, “like us” and leave a comment that YOU want to enter to win the next giveaway, and be automatically entered! Click here.

Check out a few of our incredible testimonials! Click here.

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GIVEAWAY

Francine F. from Michigan won this GIVEAWAY!  CONGRATS!

Stay tuned for our next giveaway via Facebook.

Win a copy of “The Menopause Makeover”

Winner selected August 2, 2015.

Go to the Menopause Makeover Facebook page, “like us” and leave a comment that YOU want to win a FREE copy of The Menopause Makeover and be automatically entered for this giveaway! Click here.

Take control of your health and beauty during menopause with the 8-step 12-week Menopause Makeover.

Check out a few of our incredible testimonials! Click here.

Official Giveaway Rules

• Contest closes midnight August 1, 2015 !

• No purchase necessary.

• August 2, 2015 one GRAND winner will be randomly selected to win this giveaway.
• ONE grand prize-winner to be announced by August 2, 2015.


• Winner to provide a mailing address so the vendors can mail your prize.
• If potential winner forfeits or does not claim the prize within two weeks after notification via Facebook, prize will be re-awarded at Sponsor’s sole discretion.
• Eligibility: Open only to permanent legal U.S. residents over the age of 18 physically residing in the fifty (50) United States of America.• No purchase necessary.
• August 2, 2015 one GRAND winner will be randomly selected to win this giveaway.
• ONE grand prize-winner to be announced by August 2, 2015.
• Winner to provide a mailing address so the vendors can mail your prize.
• If potential winner forfeits or does not claim the prize within two weeks after notification via Facebook, prize will be re-awarded at Sponsor’s sole discretion.
• Eligibility: Open only to permanent legal U.S. residents over the age of 18 physically residing in the fifty (50) United States of America.

By registering, you will be agreeing that your registration and any other information collected in connection with the Contest/Giveaway may be used by Sponsor and may be shared with Sponsor’s affiliated business entities, and that you automatically opt-in to receive email, text messages or other communications from Sponsor. You may subsequently opt-out of the receipt of such email or communications by following the directions in the email, communications or by contacting Sponsor directly.By registering, you will be agreeing that your registration and any other information collected in connection with the Contest/Giveaway may be used by Sponsor and may be shared with Sponsor’s affiliated business entities, and that you automatically opt-in to receive email, text messages or other communications from Sponsor. You may subsequently opt-out of the receipt of such email or communications by following the directions in the email, communications or by contacting Sponsor directly.

All registrations must include entrant’s valid email address. The email address provided by online entrants will be the identity of the entrant and, if selected for a prize, the identity of the winner. We expressly reserve the right to disqualify any entries that we believe in good faith are generated by an automated program or via scripts. By participating, all entrants agree to abide by these Official Contest Rules.All registrations must include entrant’s valid email address. The email address provided by online entrants will be the identity of the entrant and, if selected for a prize, the identity of the winner. We expressly reserve the right to disqualify any entries that we believe in good faith are generated by an automated program or via scripts. By participating, all entrants agree to abide by these Official Contest Rules.

Decisions of the Sponsor are final and binding with respect to all matters related to the Contest. All prizes will be awarded. In no event shall the Sponsor be obligated to award more prizes than the number of prizes stated in these Official Contest Rules. Please allow 6-8 weeks for prize delivery.Decisions of the Sponsor are final and binding with respect to all matters related to the Contest. All prizes will be awarded. In no event shall the Sponsor be obligated to award more prizes than the number of prizes stated in these Official Contest Rules. Please allow 6-8 weeks for prize delivery.

By participating you hold the sponsor and gifting companies harmless in the event that the prize in some way negatively impacts the winner.By participating you hold the sponsor and gifting companies harmless in the event that the prize in some way negatively impacts the winner.

Disclaimer: the sponsor is not responsible for technical failures or typographical errors. This giveaway is regulated in the sate of California, USA. All sponsor’s are approved by MenopauseMakeover.com. Void where prohibited by law. Click here for our Privacy and Disclaimer policy.Disclaimer: the sponsor is not responsible for technical failures or typographical errors. This giveaway is regulated in the sate of California, USA. All sponsor’s are approved by MenopauseMakeover.com. Void where prohibited by law. Click here for our Privacy and Disclaimer policy.

The Menopause Makeover
4000-D West Magnolia Blvd. Ste. 105
Burbank, CA 91505 USAThe Menopause Makeover
4000-D West Magnolia Blvd. Ste. 105
Burbank, CA 91505 USA

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Giveaway

Win a copy of “The Menopause Makeover”

Go to the Menopause Makeover Facebook page, “like us” and leave a comment that YOU want to win a FREE copy of The Menopause Makeover (purse-size) and be automatically entered for the next giveaway! Click here.

Take control of your health and beauty during menopause with the 8-step 12-week Menopause Makeover.

Check out a few of our incredible testimonials! Click here.

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Coconut Crunch Shake

Eat Like a Woman: Coconut Crunch Shake Mini-Meal!

The PERFECT mini-meal designed just for women.

Ingredients

1 Eat Like a Woman Coconut Crunch smart nutrition bar

1 cup of almond milk (or skim milk)

1 small banana

1 teaspoon vanilla extract

A few ice cubes

Instructions:

Put all the ingredients – crumble the nutrition bar – in a blender and blend until creamy.

300-350 calories

Use 1/2 banana = 280 calories

I love this shake for breakfast when I am on the go.

For those who enjoy yummy cocktails, add a shot of your favorite rum.

You can purchase Eat Like a Woman smart nutrition bars here.

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Valentine’s Day Giveaway with Tatcha Skin Care

Love yourself first!

A very pampered Valentine’s Day with Tatcha

Enter to win the “Ritual for Normal Skin” a value of $448.00!*

Terri from Washington won this luxurious giveaway!!  CONGRATS!

This Valentine’s Day, indulge in the centuries-old beauty rituals of Japan’s geisha. Tatcha’s four-step ritual features ingredients like camellia, peony, green tea, red algae and rice bran for pure, polished and petal-fresh skin.

Created by founder Victoria Tsai, Tatcha is inspired by the secrets of the geisha, handed down and finely honed through generations of women. Tsai marries timeless ingredients with the most cutting-edge research and technology available for a simple yet stunningly efficacious skincare ritual.

How to enter to win “The Ritual for Normal Skin” a value of $448.00!

Sign up to get the latest skin care and beauty tips from Tatcha! HURRY winner selected soon!  “Like”  Tatcha on Facebook and be entered TWICE!

*The Ritual for Normal Skin can be adjusted to dry or oily skin types.

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Winner randomly selected and announced March 15, 2015.

Official Giveaway Rules

• Contest closes midnight March 14,2015.
• No purchase necessary.
• March 15, 2015 one GRAND winner will be randomly selected to win this giveaway.
• ONE grand prize-winner to be announced by March 15, 2015.
• Winner to provide a mailing address so the vendors can mail your prize.
• If potential winner forfeits or does not claim the prize within two weeks after notification via Facebook, prize will be re-awarded at Sponsor’s sole discretion.
• Eligibility: Open only to permanent legal U.S. residents over the age of 18 physically residing in the fifty (50) United States of America.

By registering, you will be agreeing that your registration and any other information collected in connection with the Contest/Giveaway may be used by Sponsor and may be shared with Sponsor’s affiliated business entities, and that you automatically opt-in to receive email, text messages or other communications from Sponsor. You may subsequently opt-out of the receipt of such email or communications by following the directions in the email, communications or by contacting Sponsor directly.

All registrations must include entrant’s valid email address. The email address provided by online entrants will be the identity of the entrant and, if selected for a prize, the identity of the winner. We expressly reserve the right to disqualify any entries that we believe in good faith are generated by an automated program or via scripts. By participating, all entrants agree to abide by these Official Contest Rules.

Decisions of the Sponsor are final and binding with respect to all matters related to the Contest. All prizes will be awarded. In no event shall the Sponsor be obligated to award more prizes than the number of prizes stated in these Official Contest Rules. Please allow 6-8 weeks for prize delivery.

By participating you hold the sponsor and gifting companies harmless in the event that the prize in some way negatively impacts the winner.

Disclaimer: the sponsor is not responsible for technical failures or typographical errors. This giveaway is regulated in the sate of California, USA. All sponsor’s are approved by MenopauseMakeover.com. Void where prohibited by law. Click here for our Privacy and Disclaimer policy.

The Menopause Makeover
4000-D West Magnolia Blvd. Ste. 105
Burbank, CA 91505 USA

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Will Your Marriage Survive Menopause? By Staness Jonekos

Opposite Sides Argument 2

Over 60 percent of divorces are initiated by women in their 40s, 50s or 60s — the menopause years — according to a recent survey conducted by AARP Magazine. Why are women running away from marriage?

I wasn’t even married when I slammed into menopause months before my wedding day at the age of 47. Despite being completely in love, I almost ran away and my fiance almost married bridezella!

Experts say the number one reason for divorce is lack of communication. My response from the ladies corner, “When everything you know to be normal is being kidnapped by changing hormones, communication may be last on the list. Throw in lifestyle changes, health and aging issues, and you are left in a small evaporating puddle of low self-esteem feeling hopeless.”

Many men blame lack of sex as the leading reason for midlife divorce. But is it? AARP poled 1,682 adults ages 45 and older on the importance of sex. Two-thirds of men (66 percent) and about half of women (48 percent) agreed that a satisfying sex life was important to their quality of life. That is only an 18 percent difference. So is it lack of sex, or a breakdown in communication chasing the women away?

Navigating a course in uncharted territory can test any relationship emotionally and sexually. It can also bring a couple closer — it did for me.

Purchasing midlife marriage insurance can help combat the unforeseen hazards during the menopause transition. How do you qualify for this love insurance? The first step is to understand how menopause can affect your love life.

Ladies first.

Menopause is a life transition that can affect you physically and emotionally. Your body is experiencing fluctuating hormones that can cause hot flashes, night sweats, itchy skin, migraine headaches, breast tenderness, vaginal dryness and irregular periods. Eighty percent of women will experience uncomfortable symptoms, and the majority struggle with midlife weight gain.

Many women feel unattractive going through so many uninvited changes. Some suffer from exhaustion, depression and moodiness leaving them feeling isolated and confused.

During menopause a woman’s brain also goes through changes. Dr. Louann Brizendine (author of The Female Brain) says, “The mommy brain unplugs. Menopause means the end of the hormones that have boosted communication circuits, emotion circuits, the drive to tend and care, and the urge to avoid conflict at all costs.”
There are additional factors on top of fluctuating hormones that may contribute to a lack of communication and interest in sex.

Dr. Wendy Klein, co-author of The Menopause Makeover and leading menopause expert, informed me, “If a woman is taking medications, such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, contraceptive drugs, antihistamines, sedatives, antihypertensives and/or medications for blood pressure, this can also decrease sexual desire.”

Midlife stresses brought on by career change, the loss of a loved one, empty nest syndrome or caring for elderly parents can contribute to a declining libido.

Throw in aging issues and the last thing on a menopausal woman’s mind is communicating. This woman is in self-survival mode, and may be in no mood to connect or make whoopi.

If she is in an unsupported relationship while managing this collection of changes, leaving the marriage may appear like her only salvation.

Gentlemen — your turn.

How many factors listed above is your partner experiencing? It is no surprise why men are afraid of menopause. His woman is changing in front of his eyes.

Women are not alone suffering from changes. Men also have midlife challenges, both physically and emotionally. Declining testosterone can affect libido, moods and sexual performance. Generally a man’s hormones change gradually compared to the woman’s experience during menopause, so it may not be obvious to the man that he too is changing. Some of these unwelcomed changes may include midlife stress, as well as health and aging issues. If both partners are experiencing change, the relationship may be on an emotional roller coaster.

Approximately 47 percent of women experience sexual difficulties with a decrease of sexual desire being the most common, according to the National Health and Social Survey and the Global Study of Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors.

It is no surprise that most men associate menopause with having less sex. But, it does not have to be this way. The man can actually help save a shaky midlife marriage with some handy tools to power charge the relationship. Women who have a supportive partner often have a smoother transition through menopause. When she is happy, he is happy.

Acquiring midlife marriage insurance takes action to make a difference.

Midlife Marriage Insurance For Him
1. Listen to her; don’t criticize or try to fix her.
2. Go with the flow; be prepared for mood swings.
3. Be compassionate, and validate her experience (that means agree with her, don’t try to fix her).
4. Be romantic. Bring her flowers for no reason. Make her dinner. Give her a massage. Make it about HER.
5. Cuddle more. Tell her you love her and that she is beautiful. You may just get lucky. If not, do not take it personally.
6. If YOU are not in the mood, keep her company shopping, she will love the company ;)
7. Support healthy eating and exercise choices. Join her for a walk or go on a hunting expedition at the grocery store to find new healthy foods.
8. Don’t ignore her menopause symptoms. Talk about it. Ask her what she needs to feel better.
9. Offer support if she needs to visit her healthcare provider to discuss menopause symptoms, a low libido or depression.
10. If numbers one through nine fail – disappear for a while. She may be seriously cranky and need space to focus on herself.

Success depends on going through this transition as a team! Both partners must contribute to have a successful marriage.

Midlife Marriage Insurance For Her
1. Track menopause symptoms and discuss treatment options with your healthcare provider.
2. Make a commitment to a healthy lifestyle. Exercise most days of the week. Eat nutritious meals. Watch portions.
3. Update your beauty regimen.
4. Build a support group.
5. Communicate with your partner. Don’t shut him out – let him know what you need. Understand he may be confused by your changes.
6. If you are not happy in your current relationship, discuss counseling.
7. Be receptive to creative adjustments in lovemaking activities.
8. If your libido is low and/or you are suffering from vaginal dryness, discuss your treatment options with your healthcare practitioner. There are hormone and non-hormone options available.
9. Pamper yourself.
10. Try to stay positive.

Communicate, support each other’s needs, get counseling if needed, add romance, adjust lovemaking activities, and your odds increase that your marriage will survive menopause. Being on the same team will nourish a healthy, loving relationship that can last a lifetime.

Life is constantly changing, and marriage is no different. Have real expectations, and acknowledge that your relationship goes through transitions. This will help you weather difficult times.

Midlife is an opportunity for both men and women. If you are prepared, informed and willing, your marriage can survive menopause. A loving relationship supported with good communication can strengthen your love life at any age.

This menopausal bride made it down the aisle of love. Both my partner and I said “I do” to communication and romance during menopause. We are still happily married five years later and ready to leap over the seven-year itch together.

References
Montenegro, X. The Divorce Experience: A Study of Divorce at Midlife and Beyond. AARP, May 2004.
Brizendine, L. The Female Brain. New York: Broadway Books; 2006.
Jonekos, S. and W. Klein. The Menopause Makeover. Ontario, Canada: Harlequin Enterprises; 2009.

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Menopause Makeover Giveaway

Win a copy of “The Menopause Makeover”

HURRY ENTER TODAY!

Winner selected August 2, 2015.

Go to the Menopause Makeover Facebook page, “like us” and leave a comment that YOU want to win a FREE copy of The Menopause Makeover and be automatically entered for this giveaway! Click here.

Take control of your health and beauty during menopause with the 8-step 12-week Menopause Makeover.

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• Contest closes midnight August 1, 2015 !

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• August 2, 2015 one GRAND winner will be randomly selected to win this giveaway.
• ONE grand prize-winner to be announced by August 2, 2015.


• Winner to provide a mailing address so the vendors can mail your prize.
• If potential winner forfeits or does not claim the prize within two weeks after notification via Facebook, prize will be re-awarded at Sponsor’s sole discretion.
• Eligibility: Open only to permanent legal U.S. residents over the age of 18 physically residing in the fifty (50) United States of America.• No purchase necessary.
• August 2, 2015 one GRAND winner will be randomly selected to win this giveaway.
• ONE grand prize-winner to be announced by August 2, 2015.
• Winner to provide a mailing address so the vendors can mail your prize.
• If potential winner forfeits or does not claim the prize within two weeks after notification via Facebook, prize will be re-awarded at Sponsor’s sole discretion.
• Eligibility: Open only to permanent legal U.S. residents over the age of 18 physically residing in the fifty (50) United States of America.

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All registrations must include entrant’s valid email address. The email address provided by online entrants will be the identity of the entrant and, if selected for a prize, the identity of the winner. We expressly reserve the right to disqualify any entries that we believe in good faith are generated by an automated program or via scripts. By participating, all entrants agree to abide by these Official Contest Rules.All registrations must include entrant’s valid email address. The email address provided by online entrants will be the identity of the entrant and, if selected for a prize, the identity of the winner. We expressly reserve the right to disqualify any entries that we believe in good faith are generated by an automated program or via scripts. By participating, all entrants agree to abide by these Official Contest Rules.

Decisions of the Sponsor are final and binding with respect to all matters related to the Contest. All prizes will be awarded. In no event shall the Sponsor be obligated to award more prizes than the number of prizes stated in these Official Contest Rules. Please allow 6-8 weeks for prize delivery.Decisions of the Sponsor are final and binding with respect to all matters related to the Contest. All prizes will be awarded. In no event shall the Sponsor be obligated to award more prizes than the number of prizes stated in these Official Contest Rules. Please allow 6-8 weeks for prize delivery.

By participating you hold the sponsor and gifting companies harmless in the event that the prize in some way negatively impacts the winner.By participating you hold the sponsor and gifting companies harmless in the event that the prize in some way negatively impacts the winner.

Disclaimer: the sponsor is not responsible for technical failures or typographical errors. This giveaway is regulated in the sate of California, USA. All sponsor’s are approved by MenopauseMakeover.com. Void where prohibited by law. Click here for our Privacy and Disclaimer policy.Disclaimer: the sponsor is not responsible for technical failures or typographical errors. This giveaway is regulated in the sate of California, USA. All sponsor’s are approved by MenopauseMakeover.com. Void where prohibited by law. Click here for our Privacy and Disclaimer policy.

The Menopause Makeover
4000-D West Magnolia Blvd. Ste. 105
Burbank, CA 91505 USAThe Menopause Makeover
4000-D West Magnolia Blvd. Ste. 105
Burbank, CA 91505 USA

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Relizen for Hot Flashes Giveaway

Take a non-hormonal holiday from hot flashes!

GIVEAWAY

Relizen, A Natural Option for Hot Flash Relief

Many women are searching for a natural, non-hormonal treatment for their hot flashes associated with menopause.

The good news is that there is Relizen: A non-estrogenic supplement that is endorsed by gynecologists, and has clinically shown efficacy. This safe and natural option helps women ease into menopause comfortably and naturally.

Relizen is a patented nutritional supplement for the relief of hot flashes associated with menopause.* Already one of France’s top natural menopause products, and used by over one million women in Europe over the last 15 years,  Relizen is now available in the U.S. for the first time ever.

Women look to Relizen as a preferred natural and non-hormonal therapy, and trust its efficacy, which is backed by a number of studies published in leading medical journals.1 In a placebo-controlled trial published in Climacteric, Relizen produced a significant reduction in hot flashes without changing a woman’s hormone level compared to placebo.*

We know how annoying and uncomfortable those hot flashes can be, which is why we want to give away a three month supply of Relizen to one lucky reader.

Visit us on Facebook and leave a comment on the page telling us why you want to win Relizen!
One winner will be selected on December 16, 2014 and announced December 17, 2014.

To learn more about Relizen, visit www.Relizen.com.

1 For more information about our clinical studies please visit: https://relizen.com/Consumer/Real-Results

*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food & Drug Administration.
This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure, or prevent any disease.

This giveaway is sponsored by Relizen

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The Other ED™, Estrogen Deficiency

Who likes to talk about v-health? It changes with every life stage, and after menopause it can surprise you with one more change.

Estrogen deficiency (the Other ED™) after menopause can also cause vaginal symptoms that can have a negative impact on your relationship with your partner, your sexuality, quality of life, and self-image.

It may still be taboo to discuss vaginal dryness because it is associated with aging, but we have the chance to break the silence and open the door to individualized treatment.

Seventy-five percent of postmenopausal women suffer from vaginal dryness after going through “the change;” you are not alone!

The first step to initiating change is to become informed, to apply that information to your life, and then take action. Learning, living, doing!

How do we do that?

First, gather information: What are your symptoms? Are you suffering from postmenopausal vaginal dryness?

Second, start talking about it with your friends. How is this affecting your life physically and emotionally? It will help them too if you lead the way. This is when we start breaking down those taboo walls.

Third, discuss your symptoms with a health care provider. This can be awkward, but with some tips on how to start the conversation with the doc and what to ask, you can explore treatment options that may be right for you. We are all different with different needs and preferences.

Somewhere between step 2 and step 3, addressing your symptoms with your partner will help alleviate concerns he may have about pain you may be experiencing during sex.

I am proud to be on the GLAM™ (Great Life After Menopause) team, a women’s health initiative sponsored by Novo Nordisk, and we are on a mission to bring you information that you can apply to your life and share with others.

There is a wonderful site that is loaded with information and is fun to visit that can help you get answers to your questions so you are prepared to LEARN, LIVE, and DO!

Check out TheOtherED.com http://www.theothered.com/staness.

Visit http://www.theothered.com/staness for more information on the vaginal symptoms associated with menopause and tips on how to speak with your health care provider.

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The Menopause Makeover/Washington Post

Treating menopausal symptoms: What you need to know.”

By Janice Lynch Schuster, the Washington Post

The Menopause Makeover gets a shout out in the Washington Post!


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Menopause Awareness Month Giveaway

Juanita from Ohio won this AMAZING giveaway! CONGRATS!

The PERFECT giveaway for Menopause Awareness Month!

GREAT tunes, AMAZING product to cool those pesky hot flashes and  an AWESOME book!

Tori Amos turned 50 this year and is celebrating with a new album, Unrepentant Geraldines, that features a duet and accompanying music video with her daughter, Tash.

Tori said, “I turned 50 this year –and certain people really helped me to see it in a different way and grab it with both hands. The song 16 Shades Of Blue talks about ageing from many points of view. And as I started to dive into it, I started to learn from all women of ages that age was a difficult thing for them – whether you’re talking to a 15-year-old who feels pressure to choose their career path for life or a 33-year-old who fears she won’t get the promotion if it is known that she is planning a family. They all felt the pressures in the ageing process.”

Tori has been  a constant representation of female activism throughout her career and you will LOVE her new album!!!!

Watch Tori and Tash sing a song from their new album – it’s FANTASTIC!

Click here to watch/listen.


Now that you are feeling relaxed, how about cooling down those hot flashes?!

The world’s first on-the-go, on demand, personal cooling system with patented Recool Technology, coldfront relieves heat and pain without pills, mess, or inconvenience. coldfront is an easy, safe and convenient way to deal with heat intolerance or hot flashes whether chemically, surgically or naturally induced.

Good tunes, keeping cool and how about some fun and informative reading?! The Menopause Makeover to the rescue!


ENTER TODAY!  Just let us know YOU want to WIN by leaving a comment on our Facebook page.

Winner randomly selected and announced by October 30, 2014.

Official Giveaway Rules

• Contest closes midnight October 29, 2014
• No purchase necessary.
• October 30, 2014 one GRAND winner will be randomly selected to win this giveaway.
• ONE grand prize-winner to be announced by October 30, 2014.
• Winner to provide a mailing address so the vendors can mail your prize.
• If potential winner forfeits or does not claim the prize within two weeks after notification via Facebook, prize will be re-awarded at Sponsor’s sole discretion.
• Eligibility: Open only to permanent legal U.S. residents over the age of 18 physically residing in the fifty (50) United States of America.

By registering, you will be agreeing that your registration and any other information collected in connection with the Contest/Giveaway may be used by Sponsor and may be shared with Sponsor’s affiliated business entities, and that you automatically opt-in to receive email, text messages or other communications from Sponsor. You may subsequently opt-out of the receipt of such email or communications by following the directions in the email, communications or by contacting Sponsor directly.

All registrations must include entrant’s valid email address. The email address provided by online entrants will be the identity of the entrant and, if selected for a prize, the identity of the winner. We expressly reserve the right to disqualify any entries that we believe in good faith are generated by an automated program or via scripts. By participating, all entrants agree to abide by these Official Contest Rules.

Decisions of the Sponsor are final and binding with respect to all matters related to the Contest. All prizes will be awarded. In no event shall the Sponsor be obligated to award more prizes than the number of prizes stated in these Official Contest Rules. Please allow 6-8 weeks for prize delivery.

By participating you hold the sponsor and gifting companies harmless in the event that the prize in some way negatively impacts the winner.

Disclaimer: the sponsor is not responsible for technical failures or typographical errors. This giveaway is regulated in the sate of California, USA. All sponsor’s are approved by MenopauseMakeover.com. Void where prohibited by law. Click here for our Privacy and Disclaimer policy.

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Is Vaginal Dryness Out of the Closet?

It has been 4 years since my book co-authored with Wendy Klein MD, The Menopause Makeover, has been out in the world. The topic of menopause was a tough sell for my literary agent, and even tougher to promote. No one wanted to talk about the “M” word. But I knew that women everywhere, including myself, were suffering from this transition without the information they needed to manage a natural part of womanhood.

This month is Menopause Awareness Month, and I am excited to say that I have personally witnessed the word menopause come out of the closet of shame. The topic has starred in media headlines and eased into everyday conversation, because women started talking publically about it.

However, while it may be easier now to discuss hot flashes and menopausal weight gain, there is still one symptom many are still embarrassed to discuss with their doctor and partner…postmenopausal vaginal dryness.1

Since adding vaginal dryness last year as a bookend to my menopause mission, I am happy to report that I feel there has been progress publically, scientifically, and medically.

The North American Menopause Society defines menopause-related vaginal discomfort as:

“The dryness and thinning of the vagina that follows the drop in estrogen around menopause is the most common cause of painful sex at midlife and beyond.”2

Up to 75% of menopausal women may experience vaginal dryness; as well as irritation, burning, pain during urination, pain during sex, and vaginal discharge. 3,4

Unfortunately, the majority of women still do not seek treatment, but I was happy to discover this year that the medical and scientific world has marched forward and progress is being made.1

A survey published in the medical journal Climacteric in February 2014 recommended that health care providers start being proactive in order to help their patients disclose the symptoms related to vaginal dryness so they can discuss treatment options during the menopause discussion.5

I was impressed with a letter from the editors-in-chief of this publication, entitled: “Vulvovaginal Atrophy – A Tale of Neglect.” They acknowledged that “women and their sexual partners are … suffering in silence,” and urged the wider medical profession to urgently address and improve the situation.6

The first step for those who may be suffering in silence from postmenopausal vaginal dryness is to discuss symptoms with their health care provider. Before your first visit, you can track symptoms and use this worksheet to start the conversation.

Your symptoms are treatable and there are therapy options available.

An estimated 1.2 billion women will have reached menopause by 2030. Unlike hot flashes that generally settle down with time, menopause-related vaginal symptoms do not tend to get better with age.7

In just 1 year, I have seen postmenopausal vaginal dryness peek out of the closet. Don’t let this treatable symptom keep you from embracing this natural transition in a woman’s life.
________________

By Staness Jonekos, Author of The Menopause Makeover
I am a member of GLAM™ (Great Life After Menopause), a woman’s health initiative sponsored by Novo Nordisk.
Visit www.theOtherEd.com for more information on the vaginal symptoms associated with menopause and tips on how to speak with your doctor about them.

GLAM™ (Great Life After Menopause) is a trademark of Novo Nordisk FemCare AG.
© 2014 Novo Nordisk      All rights reserved.      0814-00022955-1        September 2014

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[1] Nappi RE, Kokot-Kierepa M. Vaginal Health: Insights, Views & Attitudes (VIVA) – Results from an International Survey. Climacteric. 2012;15(1):36-44.

[2] The North American Menopause Society Staff. Vaginal Discomfort. The North American Menopause Society. http://www.menopause.org/for-women/sexual-health-menopause-online/causes-of-sexual-problems/vaginal-discomfort. Publish Date Unknown. Accessed September 3, 2014.

[3] Wines N, Willsteed E. Menopause and the skin. Australasian Journal of Dermatology. 2001;42(3):149-158.

[4] The North American Menopause Society Staff. Management of symptomatic vulvovaginal atrophy: 2013 position statement of The North American Menopause Society. Menopause. 2013;20(9):888-902.

[5] Nappi RE, Palacio S. Impact Of Vulvovaginal Atrophy on Sexual Health and Quality of Life at Postmenopause. Climacteric. 2014;17(1):3-9.

[6] Panay N, Fenton A. Vulvovaginal Atrophy – A Tale of Neglect. Climacteric. 2014;17(1):1-2.

[7] Sinha A, Ewies AAA. Non-hormonal Topical Treatment of Vulvovaginal Atrophy: An Up-to-date Overview. Climacteric. 2013;16(3); 305-312.

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Managing Overactive Bladder

Managing Overactive Bladder

By Staness Jonekos

Do you map out bathroom locations before leaving home so you aren’t stranded without options when the unstoppable urge strikes?

Bladder control issues can be stressful especially in social situations.  As many as one in six adults over the age 40 suffer from an overactive bladder (OAB), and women between the ages of 45 and 64 are affected more than men.

The North American Menopause Society (NAMS) says:

“Women are much more prone to the occasional episode of urine leakage than men. These symptoms may be partially affected by menopause. As menopause approaches and during the years that follow, lack of estrogen can cause thinning of the lining of the urethra, the outlet for the bladder. With aging, the surrounding pelvic muscles may weaken. As a result, women are at increased risk for urinary incontinence.”

Unfortunately, the majority of women do not seek treatment, assuming it is part of the aging process.  OAB can affect quality of life, and can impact sexual health.

When the muscles of the bladder contract involuntarily, your brain signals the urgent need to urinate.  Often you may not always make it to the bathroom without leaking.

Urgency is the hallmark symptom, as well as frequency and waking up during sleep two or more times to urinate, according to the International Continence Society (ICS).

The ICS defines frequency of urination as:

“…Up to seven episodes during waking hours had been considered normal, but this number is highly variable based upon hours of sleep, fluid intake, medical conditions and other factors like medications, a urinary tract infection and pregnancy or recent delivery.”

The good news is that there are OAB first line treatment strategies you can discuss with your healthcare provider:

  1. Behavioral therapies, including bladder training, pelvic floor muscle training, and fluid management.
  2. Pharmacologic management, with both over-the-counter and prescription options.
  3. Lifestyle changes:
    1. Maintain a healthy weight, because being overweight can contribute to OAB.
    2. Reduce caffeine, tea, alcohol, spicey and acidic foods.
    3. Stop smoking – smoker’s cough can lead to urine leakage.
    4. Support healthy bowel habits. Being constipated can cause extra pressure on the bladder, making you feel like you have to urinate. Exercise and fiber intake can help with regularity.

Chart your symptoms 3 to7 days prior to your first doctor’s visit, and track your progress with these tools:

FREE Bladder Diary

FREE Bladder APP

If you have OAB, don’t suffer in silence.  Johns Hopkins Medicine reports that around 33 million Americans have an overactive bladder – you are not alone.  With proper treatment you can schedule your day around activities not bathroom locations.

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AZO Bladder Control™ with Go-Less® Giveaway

AZO Bladder Control with Go-Less®

GIVEAWAY

Bladder health is important at any age, but most of us don’t think about it until we approach the menopausal years.  AZO Bladder Control™ with Go-Less® is an option to consider to support a healthy bladder.

There will be 5 winners selected for the AZO Bladder Control™ with Go-Less® giveaway. It’s easy to enter. Leave a comment that you want to win, or “Like” our Facebook page.

The winners (randomly selected) will be announced September 30, 2014.

Ingredients

The active ingredient in AZO Bladder Control™ contains clinically-studied Go-Less®, a drug-free, naturally sourced supplement comprised of pumpkin seed extract and soybean isoflavones.

These ingredients are shown to support healthy bladder activity and enforce bladder strength. Pumpkin seed extract supports bladder muscle integrity, while the soy isoflavones help relax bladder muscles and sustain muscular strength in the pelvic floor.

For more information on how these ingredients work: http://azobladder.com/azo-bladder#faqs

Suggested Use

Take one capsule three times a day for two weeks. After two full weeks, taper to one capsule twice a day. When following the suggested product directions, AZO Bladder Control with Go-Less helps to manage occasional urgency.

For additional information, visit AZO Bladder Control

*These statements have not been evaluated by the Food and Drug Administration. This product is not intended to diagnose, treat, cure or prevent any disease.

This giveaway is sponsored by AZO Bladder Control with Go-Less®

Always discuss over-the-counter-products with your healthcare provider.

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Tips from the NIH about Hormones and Menopause

Ladies, finally an easy-to-read brochure that shares the latest science on hormones and menopause.  A MUST read!

This information is based on research and approved by leading scientists in women’s health, so you can be sure it’s reliable.

The NIH is the part of the U.S. government responsible for medical research. They’re working hard to develop cures and treatments, including treatments for menopausal symptoms.

Click on the image to order your copy for FREE.

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Will Your Marriage Survive Menopause? by Staness Jonekos

Opposite Sides Argument 2

Over 60 percent of divorces are initiated by women in their 40s, 50s or 60s — the menopause years — according to a recent survey conducted by AARP Magazine. Why are women running away from marriage?

I wasn’t even married when I slammed into menopause months before my wedding day at the age of 47. Despite being completely in love, I almost ran away and my fiance almost married bridezella!

Experts say the number one reason for divorce is lack of communication. My response from the ladies corner, “When everything you know to be normal is being kidnapped by changing hormones, communication may be last on the list. Throw in lifestyle changes, health and aging issues, and you are left in a small evaporating puddle of low self-esteem feeling hopeless.”

Many men blame lack of sex as the leading reason for midlife divorce. But is it? AARP poled 1,682 adults ages 45 and older on the importance of sex. Two-thirds of men (66 percent) and about half of women (48 percent) agreed that a satisfying sex life was important to their quality of life. That is only an 18 percent difference. So is it lack of sex, or a breakdown in communication chasing the women away?

Navigating a course in uncharted territory can test any relationship emotionally and sexually. It can also bring a couple closer — it did for me.

Purchasing midlife marriage insurance can help combat the unforeseen hazards during the menopause transition. How do you qualify for this love insurance? The first step is to understand how menopause can affect your love life.

Ladies first.

Menopause is a life transition that can affect you physically and emotionally. Your body is experiencing fluctuating hormones that can cause hot flashes, night sweats, itchy skin, migraine headaches, breast tenderness, vaginal dryness and irregular periods. Eighty percent of women will experience uncomfortable symptoms, and the majority struggle with midlife weight gain.

Many women feel unattractive going through so many uninvited changes. Some suffer from exhaustion, depression and moodiness leaving them feeling isolated and confused.

During menopause a woman’s brain also goes through changes. Dr. Louann Brizendine (author of The Female Brain) says, “The mommy brain unplugs. Menopause means the end of the hormones that have boosted communication circuits, emotion circuits, the drive to tend and care, and the urge to avoid conflict at all costs.”
There are additional factors on top of fluctuating hormones that may contribute to a lack of communication and interest in sex.

Dr. Wendy Klein, co-author of The Menopause Makeover and leading menopause expert, informed me, “If a woman is taking medications, such as antidepressants, mood stabilizers, contraceptive drugs, antihistamines, sedatives, antihypertensives and/or medications for blood pressure, this can also decrease sexual desire.”

Midlife stresses brought on by career change, the loss of a loved one, empty nest syndrome or caring for elderly parents can contribute to a declining libido.

Throw in aging issues and the last thing on a menopausal woman’s mind is communicating. This woman is in self-survival mode, and may be in no mood to connect or make whoopi.

If she is in an unsupported relationship while managing this collection of changes, leaving the marriage may appear like her only salvation.

Gentlemen — your turn.

How many factors listed above is your partner experiencing? It is no surprise why men are afraid of menopause. His woman is changing in front of his eyes.

Women are not alone suffering from changes. Men also have midlife challenges, both physically and emotionally. Declining testosterone can affect libido, moods and sexual performance. Generally a man’s hormones change gradually compared to the woman’s experience during menopause, so it may not be obvious to the man that he too is changing. Some of these unwelcomed changes may include midlife stress, as well as health and aging issues. If both partners are experiencing change, the relationship may be on an emotional roller coaster.

Approximately 47 percent of women experience sexual difficulties with a decrease of sexual desire being the most common, according to the National Health and Social Survey and the Global Study of Sexual Attitudes and Behaviors.

It is no surprise that most men associate menopause with having less sex. But, it does not have to be this way. The man can actually help save a shaky midlife marriage with some handy tools to power charge the relationship. Women who have a supportive partner often have a smoother transition through menopause. When she is happy, he is happy.

Acquiring midlife marriage insurance takes action to make a difference.

Midlife Marriage Insurance For Him
1. Listen to her; don’t criticize or try to fix her.
2. Go with the flow; be prepared for mood swings.
3. Be compassionate, and validate her experience (that means agree with her, don’t try to fix her).
4. Be romantic. Bring her flowers for no reason. Make her dinner. Give her a massage. Make it about HER.
5. Cuddle more. Tell her you love her and that she is beautiful. You may just get lucky. If not, do not take it personally.
6. If YOU are not in the mood, keep her company shopping, she will love the company ;)
7. Support healthy eating and exercise choices. Join her for a walk or go on a hunting expedition at the grocery store to find new healthy foods.
8. Don’t ignore her menopause symptoms. Talk about it. Ask her what she needs to feel better.
9. Offer support if she needs to visit her healthcare provider to discuss menopause symptoms, a low libido or depression.
10. If numbers one through nine fail – disappear for a while. She may be seriously cranky and need space to focus on herself.

Success depends on going through this transition as a team! Both partners must contribute to have a successful marriage.

Midlife Marriage Insurance For Her
1. Track menopause symptoms and discuss treatment options with your healthcare provider.
2. Make a commitment to a healthy lifestyle. Exercise most days of the week. Eat nutritious meals. Watch portions.
3. Update your beauty regimen.
4. Build a support group.
5. Communicate with your partner. Don’t shut him out – let him know what you need. Understand he may be confused by your changes.
6. If you are not happy in your current relationship, discuss counseling.
7. Be receptive to creative adjustments in lovemaking activities.
8. If your libido is low and/or you are suffering from vaginal dryness, discuss your treatment options with your healthcare practitioner. There are hormone and non-hormone options available.
9. Pamper yourself.
10. Try to stay positive.

Communicate, support each other’s needs, get counseling if needed, add romance, adjust lovemaking activities, and your odds increase that your marriage will survive menopause. Being on the same team will nourish a healthy, loving relationship that can last a lifetime.

Life is constantly changing, and marriage is no different. Have real expectations, and acknowledge that your relationship goes through transitions. This will help you weather difficult times.

Midlife is an opportunity for both men and women. If you are prepared, informed and willing, your marriage can survive menopause. A loving relationship supported with good communication can strengthen your love life at any age.

This menopausal bride made it down the aisle of love. Both my partner and I said “I do” to communication and romance during menopause. We are still happily married five years later and ready to leap over the seven-year itch together.

References
Montenegro, X. The Divorce Experience: A Study of Divorce at Midlife and Beyond. AARP, May 2004.
Brizendine, L. The Female Brain. New York: Broadway Books; 2006.
Jonekos, S. and W. Klein. The Menopause Makeover. Ontario, Canada: Harlequin Enterprises; 2009.

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Don’t Diet! Make Easy Food Swaps by Staness Jonekos

Simple food swaps can help you obtain and maintain your healthy weight for life!

Swap THIS- With THIS

White rice- Quinoa or brown rice
White bread- Whole-wheat pita bread
Sour cream- Greek yogurt
Tomato Sauce- Fresh diced tomatoes
Mayonnaise- Mashed avocado
Mashed potatoes- Mashed cauliflower
White pasta- Wheat pasta
French fries- Sweet potato fries
Fruit juice- Fruit water
Flour tortilla- Corn tortilla
Butter- Olive oil
Baked potato- Baked sweet potato

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Delicious doctor-designed meals delivered to your door!



While it may be fun to put on an apron and whip up a fancy recipe, most of us don’t have time to do that every day. That’s why I partnered with bistroMD, because their meals honor a woman’s specific metabolic rate, they are doctor designed, as well as chef-prepared. What’s better? These gourmet meals are conveniently delivered right to your door.

At bistroMD it’s not about eating less, but about eating better. Food works as medicine to correct metabolic issues which make losing weight difficult and gaining weight easy.

The meals consist of a nutritious balance of lean, adequate protein, complex carbohydrates and healthy fats that are Eat Like a Woman® and Menopause Makeover® approved.

What I love about bistroMD is they are not a fad diet and their meals are whole and complete, and do not require additional shopping, cooking, or calorie counting. In today’s modern world, bistroMD is a woman’s health and time solution.

If you thought you couldn’t eat Buckwheat Berry Pancakes for breakfast, think again! The Pork Tenderloin with Plum Sauce is another favorite of mine.

ORDER TODAY and get our community discount! Click on the image!


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Fashion Flash

Its Fashion Flash Monday!

Posted on May 5, 2014 by 

Fashion Flasher, Deb Chase of NoNonsenseBeauty Blog is hosting the latest tips from my FAV bloggers on health, fashion, style and beauty – check them out.

Fashion Flash logoI am so excited about hosting  Fashion Flash this week.  Our bloggers are bursting with new ideas and insights:

* Positive Living advocate Barbara Hannah Gufferman thinks there are so  many reasons  why taking a nice long  walk is a really good thing. And this is just one of them.

* Kari of Fab Over  Forty  has found an easy way to refresh during the day.

* Have you ever heard of chicken skin? Cindy of Prime Beauty points out that those pesky bumps on your upper arms are actually Keratosis Pilaris that can be hard to treat. Not to worry. She has a three step system that  gets the  job done.

* Does low bone mass mean osteoporosis? Find out the answer from Moving Free with Mirabai.

* Who doesn’t love Paris?  Jackie Silver from Aging Backwards has found a way to bring Paris to you.

* Black Cat Plus  has an important message– Fat shaming  and discrimination is one of the last forms of acceptable bullying behaviours and it is necessary  to speak up and take a stand

* Diva Debbi loves a good bargain and she has found a drugstore product that  is just  as good as  its pricy competitor.

* Staness of Menopause Makeover wantts you to know about the special benefits of cinnamon for women.  Not only is does it have anti-inflammatory agents, it also fights fat storage!  Its easy to add cinnamon to your life with  recipes from her new book Eat Like A Woman ( Harlequin)

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Eat Like a Woman with bistroMD!

Welcome to the Eat Like a Woman program,

Today the modern woman is busy, so I partnered with bistroMD because their meals honor a woman’s specific metabolic rate and they are doctor designed, as well as chef-prepared and conveniently delivered right to your door.

At bistroMD it’s not about eating less, but about eating better. Food works as medicine to correct metabolic issues which make losing weight difficult and gaining weight easy.

The meals consist of a nutritious balance of lean, adequate protein, complex carbohydrates and healthy fats that are Eat Like a Woman® approved.

I am so excited that bistroMD has given the Eat Like a Woman® community a special discount, so you can get started today. Visit www.bistroMD.com and enter my exclusive code ELAW50 to receive $50 off your first order.*

What I love about bistroMD is they are not a fad diet and their meals are whole and complete, and do not require additional shopping, cooking, or calorie counting. In today’s modern world, bistroMD is a woman’s health and time solution.

Be WELL, and if you are a woman…eat like a woman.

Staness Jonekos
Women’s Health & Empowerment Advocate
Author, Eat Like a Woman®

*New members only. Does not include shipping and cannot be combined with any other offers.

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Fashion Flash

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Cindy from Prime Beauty Blog is hosting Fashion Flash!

“The official debut of spring is on its way and I’m thrilled to be hosting Fashion Flash this week. Our expert bloggers are ready with great information on how exercise can help with menopause, how to wear new spring fashions, whether you need an eye cream and a new non-invasive skin tightening technique.”

Fashion Flash tips from:

Deb at NoNonsense Beauty

Mirabai at Moving Free

Kari at FabOverForty

Barbara at the Best Of Everything After 50

Jackie at Aging Backwards

Jodlee at Black Cat Plus

Deborah at Fabulous After 40

Debbi at DivaDebbie

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Fashion Flash

FASHION FLASH! The BEST OF EVERYTHING In Beauty, Style, Health And More! SPRING 2014 EDITION!

FashionFlashNEWlogoBarbara Hannah Grufferman from the Best Of Everything After 50 is hosting Fashion Flash this week.

“I have the double honor of  hosting FASHION FLASH this week AND welcoming a fantastic new woman to our fabulous group of experts!

Debbi O’Shea, founder of the hugely popular site DivaDebbi, has joined FASHION FLASH, and will bring her brilliant POV about fashion and beauty to our weekly online mini-mag. We are thrilled to have her!
Okay . . . back to biz! Aren’t you so so so glad that winter is almost over? Now that we’ve finally pushed the clocks ahead it’s starting to feel like Spring is truly around the corner. And that means it’s time for a bit of beauty, style and health spring cleaning! And what better way to kick off the season where hope springs eternal than by hanging with the FASHION FLASH experts?
But, enough yakking. Now it’s time to kick off your heels, grab that glass of Pinot Noir or cup of green tea, relax and dig into this week’s edition of FASHION FLASH!”
AND PLEASE, EVERYONE . . . IF YOU LIKE WHAT YOU SEE: READ, LIKE, AND SHARE. YAY!
Fashion Flash Tips from:
  • BlackCatPlus has opinions about Target’s plus size clothing.
  • Fab Over Forty has tips on how to make your eyes look more youthful.
  • NoNonsense explores a nutritional rock star.
  • Fabulous After 40 shows you how to wear a dressed up version of sporty chic.
  • Moving Free with Mirabai has etiquette tips.
  • Aging Backwards went straight to the woman who ws born into etiquette.
  • Prime Beauty shares secrets for her top 10 face, eye and lip primers.
  • Staness from the Menopause Makeover shares her latest book, Eat Like a Woman, book trailer.
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Fashion Flash

Its Fashion Flash Monday!

Posted on March 3, 2014 by 

Fashion Flash logoI’m so psyched to be hosting Fashion Flash again this week.  While  most of us have Oscar fever, our lifestyle bloggers are  focused on  sharing the  best in  in  beauty, fashion,fitness and nutrition:

*Cindy at Prime Beauty shares her tips and tricks for applying eye makeup on older eyes and its eye-opening (  no pun intended)

* As another snowstorm  rolls across the country,enjoy a cup of cozy warm Matcha Green Tea latte. Loaded with  antioxidants it can lower cholesterol and  even boost metabolism.  Staness Jonekos of  Menopause Makeover shares her favorite, easy to prepare recipe.

* Mirabai of Moving Free with Mirabai wants   you to learn how cardio dance may  improve memory.

* Would you try the newest ‘ backwards hair craze’  that  Jackie from Aging Backwards discovered.

* Is age appropriate  dressing all  in your head?  Deb Boland of Fabulous After Forty   explores why  dressing age appropriately  may not be all its cracked up to be.

* Positive Aging Expert Barbara Hannah Grufferman of  the Best of Everything After Fifty wants women to stop spending  so  much money on health and beauty treatments and instead go shopping  in their kitchens to look gorgeous and feel great.

* Are you one of those lucky ones that is getting away for the winter?  Even if you’re not, you need to check out this fabulous giveaway that Fab Over Forty has going on! Enter to win a travel T3 hair dryer and stylish hair ties perfect for the gym or the winter giveaway.

* Jodell  at Black Cat Plus checks out  Oscar fashion styles  that work for plus size silouettes.

No-Nonsense Blog Sign-Up* And at No-Nonsense Beauty Blog you can now download  a FREE four page guide to Retin A when you subscribe to the blog.  It  explains  how this powerful anti-ager works,  how to  choose the right formulation  for your skin needs,  offers a day and night  Retin A treatment plan and answers the five top Retin A questions.  Just click the little envelope, on the right hand  side of  the homepage. One click and you will become a Retin A  zen master. FYI if you are reading this blog on an I Pad or smartphone, the box will be at the bottom of the page.

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Fashion Flash

Fashion Flash

Deborah Boland from Fabulous After 40 is hosting Fashion Flash this week:

It’s my turn to host this week’s Fashion Flash, and I’m thrilled to be introducing you to the best 40+ fashion, beauty, and wellness bloggers on the Web.

Fashion Flash is a weekly roundup of the best beauty and fashion tips for women over 40 from eight of the best fashion, beauty, and health bloggers on the Web. Here’s what all the ladies over 40 are buzzing about this week:

  • Is Botox better than microdermabrasion?
  • Is the skin around your eyes dry during winter?
  • Check out a new makeup line.
  • Is wheat making you fat?
  • Check out the plus size classic styles year round.
  • Suffering from back pain?
  • Learn how to exercise, so you don’t hurt your knees.
  • And Deborah has a GREAT GIVEAWAY!
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Fashion Flash

Beauty Secrets

Jackie from Aging Backwards is hosting Fashion Flash! Please enjoy the variety of posts below from some of the top bloggers online.

Fashion Flash Bloggers

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Tracking meals and daily activity is the first step to taking control of your health. Staness Jonekos, women’s health advocate and author of The Menopause Makeover, has a FREE meal planner to start the ultimate makeover.

beauty over 40Prime Beauty chooses her Top 10 Red Lipsticks for Makeup Wars. If you want a sexy red pout but a bit shy of wearing a bold lip, this list is perfect for you!

beauty over 40

Positive Aging Expert Barbara Hannah Grufferman is positively crazy over these fabulous shoes she found when looking for styles that were beautiful, fashionable, affordable, and sexy . . and says “RUN DON’T WALK!” to your computer to order right now!

beauty over 40

Jodell from Black Cat Plus says, “Zac Posen adds his talents to the list of designers who design for plus size brides.”

Fitness over 40

Feeling stressed? Gaining weight? Having trouble getting enough sleep? Mirabai Holland, Women’s Fitness And Wellness Expert tells you why and how aerobic exercise can help!

beauty over 40A long cold winter makes you want to snuggle up in something comfy and cozy. Deborah Boland shares 4 fabulous ways to wear a sweater dress.

beauty over 40

This winter has been rough on skin and our hands can take the brunt of the harshness. Fab Over Forty shares a beauty secret from fabulous hands.

beauty over 40

Deb of No-Nonsense Beauty Blog looks at getting your money’s worth when it comes to beauty.

Also, be sure to check out the new Youtube channel, Fashion Flash On-Air!

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