Monthly Archives: October 2011

Fashion Flash

Great style, beauty and health tips from my favorite bloggers, hosted by ObsessedWithShoes

Are you suffering from perimenopausal depression? Read my interview with leading women’s health expert, Dr. Wendy Klein, co-author of The Menopause Makeover.

Nailpolish as good as Chanel — but from the drugstore… plus 28 items to save and splurge on, from FabOverFifty.

How to find the perfect Plus size Poncho that will easily take you from work to your weekend.

With the latest releases of holiday makeup collections, it can be daunting to know what to buy. Fab Over Forty gives us tips on how to get the best value on holiday makeup.

Do your habits support your fitness and fat loss goals? Female Fat Loss Over 40 expert, Shawna K gives you strategies to change your old ways so that you can realize health and vitality.

Deb at No-Nonsense Beauty Blog begins a smile makeover.

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Is Botox safe if you have allergies?

Expert: Dr. Carlin Vickery

Partner, 5th Avenue Millennium Aesthetic Surgery
Associate Clinical Professor in Department of Surgery at Mount Sinai Medical Center

Ranked as one of NYC’s top board certified plastic surgeons, Dr. Vickery was one of the first women to train in plastic surgery and reconstructive microsurgery.  Dedicated to innovation throughout her 30 year career, she continues to use cutting edge techniques to achieving long lasting, optimal, aesthetic improvement of the breast, body and face.

Dear Dr. Vickery,

I am 49 and have terrible frown lines between my eyes.  Suffering from bad allergies (Penicillin, aspirin, Cipro and many others), and environmental substances (dander, dust, pollen), is Botox a safe option?

In all likelihood, Botox will be an excellent and safe option for your frown lines.  Reported allergic reactions are limited to patients with a sensitity to Albumin and to those who have already been exposed to Botox and have showed sensitivity.  Many patients with the allergies you describe have successfully had Botox treatment.  Discuss your concerns with a qualified physician, and if you want to be cautious, you could always have a small test dose before you have a full treatment.  Good Luck!

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October Giveaway

Cindy from Van Nuys, CA won this fabulous giveaway. Congrats Cindy!

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10 Ways to Lower Your Risk of Getting Breast Cancer

10 Ways to Lower Your Risk of Getting Breast Cancer

by Staness Jonekos

The Menopause Makeover

Why don’t most women perform monthly breast exams? I confess, I have done three self-breast exams in my entire life! Considering I have spent a lifetime on birth control pills to manage endometriosis and ovarian cysts, and now on post menopause hormone therapy, I should be doing monthly breast exams, but I don’t – why?

Maybe it was my Catholic upbringing – “Don’t touch yourself” was the message from my Sunday catechism teacher. Maybe it was the social messages I got from the media – boobs are for babies and hubbies.

Feeling embarrassed that I don’t do monthly breast self-exams, I decided to talk with other women. I interviewed 100 women, ages 25 to 75. My first question, “Do you perform monthly breast self-exams?” I was shocked that 92 percent of these women said, “No.” I was not alone.

Curious, I asked, “Why not?” The majority of women admitted that they, too, did not feel comfortable touching their breasts. The second reason was the fear of finding something scary, a lump – breast cancer.

Breasts have many connotations: sexuality, femininity, and motherhood. We do lots of things to our breasts: strap them into brassieres, augment their size, pierce them, and use them to get attention. I actually hide mine. I don’t like people looking at them. I would rather have them look at my face. Perhaps residual Catholic fear that showing my cleavage would conjure up some form of trouble, I dress around my 34DDs with higher necklines.

I am not the only one with a story about my breasts. I have many friends who have had “boob jobs.” Most of them had breast augmentation in their 20s and 30s. They claimed it was for their self-esteem, but most finally admitted they loved the attention. Many altered their breasts after nursing. The remainder decided to have their boobs lifted after menopause in an effort to hold onto their youth. That’s a lot of attention and money spent on an area of the body most of us don’t personally touch!

My husband loves my breasts. I know it is time for me to love them too. I looked at them in the mirror just this morning. At 52 my boobs have shifted four inches south of their origins. I cupped them and held them up – unfortunately they did not look like they did in the beginning. I bent over and looked at the effects of gravity – unfortunately they did not look like they did in the beginning. Then I jumped up and down, and fortunately I felt better at the humor of actually looking at my breast move naturally after being strapped in most of the day. It was an interesting moment. Funny, curious, and insightful, and then it happened. I just stared at them without judgment and realized how beautiful they are, and how lucky I am that they are healthy.

Over ten years ago, my dear friend Leslie died of breast cancer. She decided to bypass her yearly check-up for financial reasons, and it cost Leslie her life. Leslie’s husband and two children lost the center of their universe to breast cancer, and I lost a friend. I remember weeks before her death, she grabbed my hand that was nervously knitting to avoid the inevitable truth that she was dying, and drew me near. She whispered, with the little energy she had, “Never miss your yearly check-up, I am dying an angry woman because I did.” I still weep over Leslie’s death. She was only in her 40s.

I have seven other friends who had breast lumps that were discovered during their annual check-ups. Two of those seven friends had stage 2 and 3 cancer but they caught it early enough and were able to manage it. I am happy to report they are now cancer free. The others did not have cancer. Leslie was right, early detection can save lives.

According to the American Cancer Society, “Breast cancer is the second leading cause of cancer death in women, exceeded only by lung cancer.” About 1 out of every 7 women will get breast cancer over a 90-year life span. All women are at risk for breast cancer.

This year about 207,090 new cases of invasive breast cancer will be diagnosed in women. About 40,000 moms, daughters, sisters, granddaughters and best friends that will die from breast cancer this year.

The American Cancer Society states, “Death rates from breast cancer have been declining since about 1990, with larger decreases in women younger than 50. These decreases are believed to be the result of earlier detection through screening and increased awareness, as well as improved treatment.”

The chance that breast cancer will be responsible for a woman’s death is about 1 in 35 (about 3%). At this time there are over 2.5 million breast cancer survivors in the United States.

A woman’s risk of breast cancer approximately doubles if she has a first-degree relative (mother, sister, daughter) who has been diagnosed with breast cancer. About 20-30% of women diagnosed with breast cancer have a family history of breast cancer.

About 70-80% of breast cancers occur in women who have no family history of breast cancer due to genetic abnormalities that happen as a result of the aging process and life in general, rather than inherited mutations.

There are ways to reduce your risk.

What can you do to lower your risk of getting breast cancer?

1. Maintain an ideal weight: The chance of developing breast cancer after menopause is higher in women who are overweight or obese.
2. Exercise: The American Cancer Society recommends engaging in 45-60 minutes of physical exercise 5 or more days a week.
3. Alcohol consumption: Alcohol can limit your liver’s ability to control blood levels of the hormone estrogen, which in turn can increase risk. The Harvard Nurses’ Health study, along with several others, has shown that consuming more than one alcoholic beverage a day can increase breast cancer risk by as much as 20-25 percent.
4. Exposure to estrogen: The female hormone estrogen stimulates breast cell growth, so exposure to estrogen over long periods of time, without breaks, can increase the risk of breast cancer.
5. Oral contraceptive use: Recent use may slightly increase a woman’s risk for breast cancer.
6. Fruits and vegetables: Broccoli, cabbage, Brussels sprouts, kale, spinach, carrots, tomatoes, cauliflower, berries and cherries are all breast cancer fighters.
7. High glycemic carbohydrates: Eat low to medium glycemic foods and avoid white rice, white potatoes, and sugar products, because these foods may trigger hormonal changes that promote cellular growth in breast tissue. Eat whole grains and legumes.
8. Smoking: Smoking is associated with an increase in breast cancer risk, and in the risk of other cancers.
9. Stress and anxiety: There is no clear proof that stress and anxiety can increase breast cancer risk, but some research suggests that practicing yoga, prayer, and meditation to manage stress can strengthen the immune system.
10. Perform monthly breast self-exams, get routine screenings and work closely with your healthcare provider.

We cannot control our gender, age, race, or family history of breast cancer, but early detection can save lives. Performing a monthly breast self-exam is something you can control.

Nearly 70% of all breast cancers are found through self-exams, and with early detection the 5-year survival rate is 98%.

Dr. Wendy Klein, leading women’s health expert and co-author of The Menopause Makeover says, “Discuss your breast self-exam technique with your healthcare provider, and report any asymmetrical changes in your breast right away. Regular breast self-exams in conjunction with other screening methods, working closely with your doctor, are simple common sense for good breast health.”

Today I celebrate my health by lowering my breast cancer risk factors. Today I honor my breast health empowered. Today I do a breast self-exam.

What is your risk of getting breast cancer?

Click here for the National Cancer Institutes Breast Cancer Risk Assessment Tool:

How to do a breast self-exam:

References National Breast Cancer Foundation® Official Site – Information, Awareness & Donations, “Self Examination – National Breast Cancer Foundation.” 10 September 2010. <>

Jonekos, S. and W. Klein.  The Menopause Makeover.  Ontario, Canada: Harlequin Enterprises; 2009.

Smith RA, Cokkinides V, Brawley OW. Cancer screening in the United States, 2008: A review of current American Cancer Society guidelines and cancer screening issues. CA Cancer J Clin. 2008;58:161-179. National Cancer Institute – Comprehensive Cancer Information, “ Breast Cancer Risk Assessment Tool.” 02 October 2010 <> National Breast Cancer Foundation® Official Site – Information, Awareness & Donations,  “Self Examination – National Breast Cancer Foundation.” 02 October 2010 <> National Cancer Institute – Comprehensive Cancer Information, “Breast Cancer Prevention – National Cancer Institute.” 12 March 2010. <> Centers for Disease Control and Prevention, “CDC- Screening for Breast Cancer.” 31 August 2010. <> Breast Cancer Treatment Information and Pictures, “Lower Your Risk for Breast Cancer.” 07 August 2008. <> American Cancer Society:: Information and Resources for Cancer: Breast, Colon, Prostate, Lung and Other Forms, “Breast awareness and self exam.” 02 October  2010 <>

MedlinePlus, National Library of Medicine – National Institutes of Health, “Breast self exam: MedlinePlus Medical Encyclopedia.” 02 October 2010  <>

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Fashion Flash

Deborah from No-Nonsense Beauty is hosting this weeks Fashion Flash.

This weekend, Fashion Flasher Geri of Fabulous Over Fifty hosted the amazing Beauty Bash in New York City. For the first time, eight Fashion Flashers were together at one time. We went out to dinner at Olives in the W Hotel and were having such a good time that a young women came over to find out who we were. When she heard about Beauty Bash, she and her friends bought tickets and came to hear the lectures and visit the booths. It was that good! And in between giving presentations and talking to the over 1000 women who came to visit, we kept blogging. This week:

* Kari of Fab Over Forty insists that beauty does not have to be complicaed, giving us a few quick beauty fixes to make the day a little easier.

* Deb of Fabulous After 40 answers the question– what is the top fall fashion acessory for casual dressing?

* Jodell of Black Cat Plus presents a plus size fall fashion forecast including texture, color and animal prints.

Staness of Menopause Makeover has another amazing recipe, this time a chicken, charred tomato and broccoli salad.

Cat of Obsessed With Shoeslooks at what master cobbler Christian Louboutin is doing this fall.

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Nancy Cartwright, Voice of Bart Simpson

Some know her as “Mom,” a few lucky ones have known her as “Sweetie,” most know her as “the voice of Bart Simpson,” but I know her as “Nancykins” — my friend!   We went to UCLA in the late 70s.  Although back then you could hear us chatting about boys and dating in Sproul Hall dormitory, we mostly spent the last three decades supporting each other’s dreams and passions.

Nancy Cartwright is an Emmy Award-winning actress portraying the spike-headed underachiever Bart Simpson.  But Nancy is no underachiever!  She also does “The Simpson” voices of Ralph Wiggum, Nelson Muntz, Todd Flanders and various others in the Simpson’s hometown of Springfield.  You may have also heard her voices in the “Rugrats,” “Kim Possible,” and “Richie Rich.”

Nancy is also a star in front of the camera.  After we graduated UCLA, she appeared in the TV movie “Marian Rose White.” She was brilliant, then Nancy appeared  in “Fame,” “Empty Nest,” “Cheers,” “The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air,” “The Twilight Zone – The Movie,” and “Godzilla.”

Nancy’s career soared during her 20s and 30s, but it was in her 40s that I noticed her fulfilling more personal goals.  Nancy supports many non-profit organizations that help children, and was named “Honorary Mayor” of her community for her contributions.  Nancy co-founded Happy House, a non-profit that strives to build better families and is changing lives everyday.

Nancy was doing all of this while maintaining her day job voicing “The Simpsons” — the longest running scripted series in television history.

This voice over artist, actress, and philanthropist is also an author of a hilarious book, “My Life as a Ten-Year-Old Boy.”  She even thanks me for my “zest and eternal optimism.”  Cowabunga!

People always ask me, “Is Nancy’s voice like Bart Simpson?”  NO!  She sounds just like you and me, but there are all these crazy voices that she has developed that live inside her and she pulls them out like I pull out my lip gloss.

I like to describe Nancy as a complete solar system – she has numerous planets successfully circling her shining spirit.  Her incredible ability to simultaneously manage a variety of activities is impressive. She eats healthy, exercises, manages a busy career including her non-profits, and finds time for love and friendships. Nancy is truly an example of living a life in balance!  She is committed to living with integrity while breathing FUN FUN FUN into everything she does!

Nancy is now 50-something, and moving at warp speed – she is unstoppable! She may be the voice of a rebellious young boy, but good-girl Nancy STILL HAS IT and is going strong!

Interview with Nancy Cartwright

Staness: What was your childhood dream? Why?

Nancy: I remember as early as age seven people telling me what an unusual voice I had.  I used to tell jokes and do sound effects and really loved making people laugh.  I found that when I created characters and did sounds, that added to the humor.  By the time I was 16 I had done some community theater and then discovered the speech team at my high school.  Although I wasn’t a debater, I was interested in the individual events, like humorous interpretation and after-dinner speaking—again, I loved making people laugh.  I would tell stories, mostly children’s stories and did very well in the competitions.  Lots of first place trophies.  The judges would tell me that I had a very special voice and that I should do cartoons!  This hadn’t occurred to me.  After all, Kettering, Ohio is not exactly the animation capitol of the world!  It did, however establish a dream: to do voice-overs for animation.

Staness: Who has influenced your life?

Nancy: One of the great pioneers in the industry, Daws Butler, who is most recognized as the voice of Huckleberry Hound, Yogi Bear, Quik-Draw McGraw and dozens of other voices.  I got his phone number and called him.  This was when I was 18 years old.  He was to Hanna-Barbera what Mel Blanc was to Warner Brothers.  Daws was not a household name.  He had created so many characters but at that time (50s/60s) voice actors were not getting any screen credit.  His start was with old-time radio.  He worked with some of the greats like Stan Freberg, June Foray, Jay Ward and Bill Scott.  He helped to pave the way for the “up-and-comings” and a whole new generation of voice talent.

Staness: What event changed your life?

Nancy: By the time I was 20, I packed my bags and transferred from Ohio University (where I was on a scholarship to be on their speech team) to UCLA.  I majored in Theater Arts, but lived for the Sundays where I would catch the #86 bus and ride into Beverly Hills to study with Daws.  He would drive me back to my dorm (Sproul Hall) where I lived with YOU!!!  (Yes, good readers—Staness is a dear friend who I’ve known since our college years—way before either of us ever considered we would be going through menopause) Anyway, having Daws as my mentor catapulted me in the door of the animation industry – a door that wouldn’t have been opened otherwise.  He eventually took me out to Hanna-Barbera and I shook hands with the principal directors and in no time started auditioning there.  (Thank you, Daws!)

Staness: In one word, describe you.

Nancy: Spark plug

Staness: If you could change one thing in your life, what would it be?

Nancy: Actually, I feel like I am constantly changing—evolving.  I think that is very important – a very “move forward” viewpoint.  Nothing ever stays the same.  We are either getting a little worse or getting a little better.  I think it is important to know that change is good and the more you seek to take responsibility and also improve yourself and thus your relationship with those around you, the happier you will be.

Staness: What does your life look like in 25 years?

Nancy: Oh heavens to Betsy!  Let’s see…I will definitely be a grandmother!  That’s cool!  I will also be celebrating my 24th anniversary to my own “Mr. Right.”   We will have known each other for 50 years by then!  Ken and I might also be celebrating the 24th anniversary of a camp that we are thinking of creating in Ojai.  There will be four cabins, housing 16 kids, a mess hall, horseback riding, archery, fishing in the stream on the location, campfire rallies, talent shows, awards night, star-gazing, picnicking…all the fun stuff you remember about being a kid.  I will also be very busy creating more personal projects for animation and probably working on-camera or stage again.  Whoo hoo!  (Don’t forget “spark plug.”)

Staness: What has been your favorite job?

Nancy: Without a doubt, “The Simpsons!”  Incredible experience, all 22 years so far!  The people I have met, the challenges I have had to overcome—who knew that we would be doing the voices for all those characters!?  It has been tremendously rewarding in that it doesn’t take a lot of time to for my participation.  And because of the time factor, I have lots of extra time to devote to creating other projects and doing other things I love.

Staness: What do you do for fun?

Nancy: Jet skiing.  Fun, fast and furious.  I also recently found that I am a sculptor.  I always knew that I had an urge to do that, but recently I took a class and ended up not needing any lessons because I already knew what I was doing!  Wild!

Staness: What contributed to your success?

Nancy: Surrounding myself with friends who are ethical; keeping my own integrity; knowing what my purpose is in life and keeping my goals in mind when I choose projects to do.

Staness: What is your “I’ve Still Got It!” moment?

Nancy: When my sweetie looks at me and says, “I can’t believe you are 53 AND YOU ARE SO HOT!!!”  And then he kisses and squeezes me!  Whoo hooo!

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